This is a former posting, please see the Weddings Page for up to date information on weddings in the Parish
We are now well under way in the Wedding Season.
We have seven weddings in the churches of the Itchen Valley this year. Couples tend to choose St Mary’s Easton, but we also have one wedding each at St Swithun’s Martyr Worthy and St John’s Itchen Abbas.
It is of course an incredibly special occasion to be married in one of our very beautiful churches in the way that millions of people have been married over the centuries. However, these days it is not an automatic decision to do so and couples need to think very carefully as to whether they do want to get married in church at all. The church itself has standard rates for weddings throughout the country and (as these have to fit all budgets) church weddings are not expensive, but there is more to a church wedding than just a pretty occasion.
I always say to couples booking in ‘are you sure that you want to get married in a church?’ This is because the Church is not just a venue for the ceremony. We in the church care about the happiness and longevity of the whole marriage and not just about the wedding day itself. We want the couple’s whole lives together to be a success and not just the ceremony.
Thus we will ask a couple quite searching questions about their relationship which would be impertinent if we were just a wedding venue. When a couple are married in a church they are married before God and they become ‘one flesh’. In the form of the service the Anglican liturgy says ‘Those whom God has joined let no-one put asunder!’ A marriage is for keeps; for life. It’s not a decision to be taken lightly. For this reason we encourage couples to attend some kind of Marriage Preparation before they get married – there are courses all over the country (one very good course is run by Relationship Central see http://www.relationshipcentral.org/marriage-preparation-course) or (next year) we may run something locally before the wedding season begins. There will also be a series of meetings to be held with either Rebecca or me before the couple get married.
So what entitles you to get married in Itchen Valley, if you want to do so? Not everyone can do so. The legal requirement is that you have to have a ‘qualifying connection’ with the parish and this is achieved if:
One of you lives in the parish
One of you is on the church’s electoral roll
One of you was baptised in the parish
One of you was prepared for confirmation in the parish
One of you has at any time lived in the parish for a period of at least 6 months
One of you has at any time habitually attended normal church services in the parish for a period of at least 6 months
One of your parents, at any time after they were born, has lived in the parish for a period of at least 6 months
One of your parents has habitually attended normal church services in the parish for a period of at least 6 months
One of your parents or grandparents was married in the parish.
For those coming from far afield, without any other geographical connection, the requirement to attend habitually for six months is quite onerous – many of our parishioners attend habitually every Sunday! We would only recommend going down this route if a couple have a serious intention to join us regularly for worship after the wedding. Realistically that will only happen if they live within a reasonable distance.
There is something very special about getting married in Valley. And the sight of couples posing for photographs outside our historic buildings is enjoyable for all in our communities, as it takes us back to our own wedding days.
If you do want to get married in Itchen Valley and think that you qualify geographically, then please do contact me on firstname.lastname@example.org or 01962 793063.
Wedding fees for 2014 follow
Revd. Alex Pease
Wedding Fees 2014
|Banns reading||£21||£21 (1)|
|Banns Certificate||£13||£13 (1)|
|Organist & Video||£200||£200 (2)|
|Bells (Easton & Avington)||£150||£150|
|Heating (Oct-April )||£50||£50|
|Car Parking (Easton)||£100||£100 (3)|
|Car Parking (Martyr Worthy)||£65||£65 (3)|
1 If the marriage is by Special of Common Licence then the Banns fee is waived
2 A performing rights fee is applied for the organist if a video is made of the service
3 This is available by contacting James Rember (779399) and payment made to ‘The Macpherson Easton Schoolfield Trust’
4 This is available by contacting Simon Ffennell (779701)
5 If the couple wish to make a further donation to the Parish they are encouraged to do that using the Gift Aid scheme.
A deposit of £100 is payable when the wedding booking is taken which confirms the date and time. Two weeks before the wedding date the balance is payable. All cheques are made payable to ‘The Itchen Valley PCC’. Any other donation you wish to make is welcome but at your discretion.
If you wish to discuss these fees or any other matter to do with your wedding please contact:
Revd Alex Pease email@example.com 01962 793063